In a candid moment that resonated with many, former President Barack Obama recently opened up about the challenges in his marriage to Michelle Obama, offering a rare glimpse into their relationship dynamics. Speaking at Hamilton College in New York on April 4, 2025, Obama acknowledged the strains that public life and his presidency placed on their union.

“I was in a deep deficit with my wife,” Obama admitted during a conversation with College President Steven Tepper. “So I have been trying to dig myself out of that hole by doing occasionally fun things.”

The Obamas, married since 1992, have long been admired for their partnership. However, both have been transparent about the work required to maintain a strong relationship, especially under the intense scrutiny of public life. Michelle Obama has previously discussed the challenges they faced, including periods where she felt overwhelmed by responsibilities while Barack pursued his political career.

In her podcast, Michelle humorously highlighted Barack’s relaxed approach to time, attributing it to his Hawaiian roots. She recounted instances where he would start getting ready at the exact time they were supposed to leave, leading to lighthearted frustrations.